This Thing Called Life by Ki O’Shea

I did a thing this weekend! I stopped, I took the best nap, and I had my babysitter come stay with me for the weekend to help Anthony and I out with Sedinam.

Y’all, I caught up on one of my tv shows, I folded clothes, I even called a friend back. We went to the lake together and I was able to get photos of Sedinam and interact with her in a different way.

And y’all!!!!! Guess what? You ask how did I pay for this?? I was finally able to use my child support for something outside of attorney fees! I used her child support to pay her babysitter for the weekend!

I was able to go sit with my dad alone and just sit in my thoughts. As I did this, I thought of so many single moms who are like me; a child that is medically fragile and are dealing with similar situations. I listened to a very similar story with a dad from the same country as Sedinam’s and while we didn’t dwell on the bad, we both as professional women shared how bad of a decision we made and we will have to ensure we continue to protect our peace!

We laughed at our similar stories, the amount of foolishness they continue to put themselves through (because in all actuality we are not even being affected by their actions). Yeah, for me I thought: it is a lot of wasteful time and money, but it’s coming out of the child support??!! So as a parent, it baffles me that anyone would do this, but this is life and what some feel the need to do.

I laugh because I said over and over I did not want child support and even sent an email allowing him to come up with how involved he wanted to be. Despite what I wanted, he is now expected and I laugh even more because I told the judge at my last hearing as a pro se that he could keep child support during the 30 days he had Sedinam. He was adamant that he wanted 30 days to see his “princess” and now it’s… many days less of that.

But this weekend I’m happy I did a thing: rest! And thankfully Jeff, that dumb clerk of his attorneys suggested what child support was to be used for “it’s not for me, but for the child” so if we look objectively, me getting rest from the over 6500 diapers I’ve changed in two years, the many ounces of milk I pumped over the first year, the many nights of connecting her to feeding tubes, the many changes of sheets because of vomiting, the numerous doctor appointments, the many smiles and laughs and episodes of Elmo. Oh, and let’s not forget the sleepless nights, the cries and kisses and all of these clothes I had to fold ….

I’m thankful and at piece with all of these pieces I’ve been given! Y’all pray that we can stop this nonsense and Trudy Bloodsworth and her clerk Jeff K. from Nashville TN will end this foolishness and let me be a mom who collects my child support to continue taking care of a baby that I have and will have at least 355 days a year.

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